Yesterday, I took my only daughter shopping for dorm supplies. She will be heading to college in August. She is not my oldest, but she’s my first to go, and live on campus at a university, so this is new territory for me.
We had the 10 hour orientation last week – It was brutal. I didn’t cry, and she didn’t pretend not to know me, so I think it was a win win. It did however, make this all a tad bit more real for me. She seemed totally chill with everything. She told me she wasn’t nervous at all! It was all just too exciting for her.
I know she’s a great student. She’s pretty responsible with things that matter… to her anyway. She has a relationship with Christ, and a heart to help others. She knows what she wants, and she’s never been afraid to go for it. She’s a leader, and knows how to follow when she has to – something that took her mama a while to learn… I know she will be OK, and I know she will miss me, eventually. I must admit though, I will be anxiously awaiting that first phone call. The one where she calls just to chat and hear my voice. When my role as Mom will start to morph, and she will also call me friend.
Here is my top 10 for the week –
Top ten ways you know you have a kid about to go off to college
- You cry randomly…
- You have more bad dreams then normal
- You find yourself saying, “If you can’t blah blah blah here, how will you when you’re on your own?”
- You notice the “eye roll” has now been replaced with the “blank stare of don’t care”
- You will find anyway to bring up the fact that your child is leaving, in every conversation, even if it doesn’t fit, like when you order your lunch, (Waiter) “Are you ready to order ma’am?” (You) “well, I guess, ya know… I guess I need to get used to eating out more now that my child is going off to college”. (you will get a strange look and fake chuckle with this one)
- You will bring it up in every prayer group too… Try not to be to trigger happy with your request.. let other’s go first if you can.
- You will hear your child say “I love you mommy” and “leave me alone” several times in the same week.
- The intensity of your lectures about sex and drugs will escalate to un-godly proportions.
- Your personal prayer life will also intensify.
- You will decide that you have done the best you can do, and you will trust in your kid, and more in the God that created them, knowing that they will make mistakes, and you can’t fix everything for them… and that is OK… Really.
If you have any words of advice or would like to share your story or can add to this list, please do!