Yesterday was kind of a girl day for me. I had lunch with 2 sweet friends I hadn’t seen in a few months, and then I had women’s bible study at my house that evening. It was a wonderful day filled with laughing, crying, hugs, and love….
This morning when the alarm went off, I was not pleased. I rolled over and told my husband I was too tired today! He grunted and told me it was because I had too much girl time yesterday… which is “life force draining”. Seriously? Then he tells me that women have the “D.E.F.” (Drama Effect Factor) Then he tells me that he thinks all women should come with a DEF label… any woman over a 10, should probably be a Nun, because most men couldn’t handle her. Then he actually said, “Men have a DEF issue with women sometimes”. YOU THINK?
He was totally playing around with me this morning and teasing me for keeping him and my son trapped in the basement until 10PM, while me and eight of my girlfriends had a fabulous time together. He was a riot, and it did get me up – mostly to just slap him …
After I got out the door, I was thinking about what he said, and it really did make sense in a way. Women do share emotion. Men usually don’t. Women usually deal with drama. Men don’t. I wouldn’t classify sharing each other’s burdens “drama” – but men usually do. Now, I know there are exceptions to this rule – and my man has even been spotted tearing up at a Publix commercial or two. He even attends a “men’s group” each week where they take a “lie” of the world and compare it to the truth of the Word… aaaaand they talk about sports…
I was actually melancholy yesterday before I had all of my “girl time”. I have had a lot on my mind, and was just feeling blah. After spending the day with my friends, I felt better. Really better. I didn’t feel “life force drained”. I felt revived.
I think fellowship is very important. It’s even important to God. The Bible is filled with instruction and encouragement on fellowship. Hebrews 10:23-25 says, “ Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another —and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”
I love spending time with my girlfriends. I recommend joining a small group, or mom’s group, book club, or something. Bible Studies come with the added bonus of learning God’s Word together, as well as praying for each other, which is awesome… I know some ladies out there think they are loners. You’re not. You might not like a big group, and that’s OK, but no one should be alone all the time. We weren’t designed for that. You might have been burned or you’re scared, but we’ve ALL been burned and are scared! True fellowship is worth the risk. I promise.
I love being a girl and I love fellowship… How about you?